In today’s world, when we discuss how cannabis plays a role in the bedroom, it’s not just about “hitting the bong and getting it on.” In fact, there are many different ways to incorporate cannabis into one’s sex life, and many emerging businesses are looking to capitalize on this area of cannabis enhancement. While in Canada the restrictions have held back any forms of edibles or topicals that may enhance sexual arousal or pleasure, there are a plethora of cannabis products on the market today in legal states; namely, sex lubes, and supplements like cannamojo. Cannamojo is touted as the "first male enhancement pill infused with THC on the market that gives users an elated sensation or ‘buzz.’”
Ted Naylon, the 45-year old Rochester based entrepreneur behind the product explains that “the THC is also an aphrodisiac.” While it has not been tested in women, he says that “together with the ‘mojo,’ it boosts both the desire and physical effects the man wants.” One little pill as a pathway to pleasure? Perhaps, but we felt there was more to consider in the canna-sex space than the consumption or application of THCs product to enhance sex, so we looked to sexperts for their say on the matter.
That’s when we discovered Dr. Carlen Cost; a sexologist, relationship psychotherapist, and cannabis educator who has made her voice loud in the cannabis space through Women in Weed events with Vanderpop. In her counseling work and online brand “the Goddess Foundation,” she empowers women to embody an unapologetically passionate lifestyle through intimacy, sexuality, sensuality, self-worth, body-image, and relationships.
This month she explained to the Edmonton Star that “cannabis can help clients with relaxation, pain relief, increasing connection and sensation, and acceptance of sensuality.” By contrast, she said people mixing alcohol with sex are more likely to “perform poorly” or “be challenged in the moment.”
Her Instagram (@carlen.costa) provides coaching-style insights into sexuality that encompasses her holistic approach which can include cannabis. “Release the Orgasm Goal:” she writes, “when we have sex, we can become so wrapped up in “getting there” that we forget to taste all the pleasure that is being served or asking to try something new. If we can share in physical pleasure with someone and sink into how our bodies feel when it is being shared and, eliminate the pressure to cum, we share intimacy, rather than sex.”
So how does cannabis play a specific role in her practice? It comes from a response to the need she’s observed: “When people come to me, they’re looking to figure out ‘How can I connect better with myself, how can I connect better with my partner, how can I relieve some pain, how can I get back into my body and enjoy the experience?’ Cannabis is one of the tools that people are starting to turn to in a variety of different ways,” she says.
Her approach is echoed by Amy Johnson, creator of Nox Shop, an online boutique for sex toys and sexual wellness products based in Montreal. The young entrepreneur was interviewed by 48 North’s Latitude Magazine earlier this month for a special feature on sex and cannabis. She shared how “cannabis can really help a lot of people get out of their head and just relax, which, for a lot of people, is a huge part of enjoying sex. Whether people prefer smoking, taking tinctures, or using an infused lube, it comes down to personal preference.” She also addressed the medicinal aspects of cannabis when she described how “people who have pain associated with sex, or their muscles tighten and don’t allow them to relax, are now able to feel pleasure through sex in a totally different way than before.”
While more articles and public talks on the subject will continue to play an important role in destigmatizing the topic of using cannabis for sex, we wanted to know if there are facts that can back their insights? It turns out there are. Studies have been coming out about general findings on cannabis and sex, with the biggest study to date by Stanford researchers. What they found was that compared to cannabis abstainers, men who used it weekly reported 22% more sex, and for women, it was 34% more. Among those who used cannabis more than once per week, the sexual frequency increased even more.
More recently, an Ipsos poll gathered responses from 1,002 Canadians, including 120 Albertans, between Jan. 29 and Feb. 1. The poll found that 75% of cannabis users in Alberta have used weed as part of their sexual experiences. From that group, 88% said it made sex better, 52% said it increased their pleasure and sensations, 48% said they felt a better connection with their partner and themselves, and 33% reported experiencing stronger orgasms.
While the statistics can back what the sexperts say, there is still more to the subject. Seth Prosterman, a San Francisco-based certified sex therapist told Vice in 2017 that “weed isn’t a one-way ticket to pleasure town, but it can help you get there.” Prosterman explained his view: “Pot can give us a glimpse into our sexual potential. Working towards our sexual potential, with our partners, is part of developing a higher capacity for intimacy, passion, and deep connection.” This connection goes beyond what cannabis can offer, as he emphasizes: “While pot can help bring out our most sexy selves, dishibit us, or relax us during sex, I would highly recommend that people learn to be in the moment and deeply feel and connect with their partners without using enhancing drugs.”
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